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You become what you think about all day long.
~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
Does This Sound Familiar?
Being diagnosed with autoimmune disease is overwhelming, and when we discover the healing potential of the paleo lifestyle, we can clutch it like a lifeline. It’s natural to learn all we can about ancestral diet, sleep, stress, epigenetics, the gut-brain connection, evolutionary biology, gene mutations, etc., in our efforts to heal. We read books, listen to podcasts, subscribe to Paleo Magazine, follow blogs, join Facebook groups, and start tracking the details of our own n=1 experiments. We’re collecting pieces to our healing puzzle. Each jump forward in our health is cause for celebration, and each setback sends us researching more deeply.
The question is this: When does research turn into obsession?
When does it start to hurt instead of help?
I think the answer is simple. When all of your thoughts and free time are devoted to thinking about your autoimmune disease and how to heal it, you’ve moved from research into obsession. Believe me, I've done this. And as a health blogger with autoimmune disease, I'm constantly at risk for doing this. Yet we need balance in our lives. We need joy! And while a little obsession in the beginning is OK, we need to break free of it when it lasts too long and becomes our way of life. Does that mean we stop researching altogether? No. But we recognize when we’ve learned enough, and we start cutting back on researching the same topics over and over, and choose to expand our perspective beyond our disease.
How the Paleo Leaders Have Fun
I contacted some leaders in the paleo community and asked them this question:
“What do you do for the sheer joy of it,
where you don't think about health or healing at all?”
They were all excited by this question, because they know the importance of joyful living, and try to teach a balanced message themselves. Modern hunter-gathers (and ancestral tribes) have more leisure time than westernized cultures, by far. We picture them spending all day trying to find food, but in reality it takes them only a few hours, and they usually have fun doing it. The rest of their time is devoted to simply enjoying life: socializing, dancing, making music and art, playing, exploring, you name it. It’s not a life obsessed with health; it’s just a naturally healthy life. When you read the answers that follow, you’ll see how joyful activities are naturally healthy simultaneously:
Mark Sisson: “I'm going with stand-up paddle boarding in the ocean. I do this as often as I can, ideally every day but at least twice a week. It's a big reason why I choose to live in Malibu. Now, when I look back retroactively, it's quite clear that this pastime has extensive health merits. I'm out there getting enough sun to make adequate vitamin D but not enough to burn or turn pink. I'm exposing my body to cold ocean water rich in minerals, effectively a cold water epsom salt bath. I'm moving frequently at a slow pace, utilizing my musculature to propel myself through the water. But those never figure into my decision to go out on the board. I do it because I'm hoping to be alone with the waves and the salt spray. Because I want to run into another pod of dolphins and play for half an hour (which actually happened once and is one of my favorite memories). Because it just feels good gliding across the Pacific Ocean.”
Robb Wolf: “This is a great question and a few things come to mind: (1) Brazilian Jiu-jitsu. I could make an argument that this is NOT the greatest thing for my health, but I absolutely love it. (2) Spending time with my girls. Yes, this is part of being a “good” parent, but I get so damn much from hanging out with Zoe and Sagan. (3) Reading sci-fi novels. This is truly an escape for me that I've practiced since childhood. Anyone want to do a book club for Dune?!”
Terry Wahls: “I love taking my new mountain bike, Kale, around my yard, through the fruit orchard, improving my bike handling for when I can take on the mountain biking trails. I also love playing in the dirt, planting, watching my garden grow and then going to my garden, bringing in the food and preparing it for family and friends. Nothing tastes better than food that has just been harvested.”
Loren Cordain: “If I were to die today, I would like to be with my family (my wife, Lorrie and my 3 sons) on a beautiful summer day at Sand Harbor (Lake Tahoe) taking in the early morning view to the west at the snow covered Sierras and breathing in the alpine fresh air.”
Sarah Ballantyne: “I read! And I mean fiction, something completely unrelated to paleo, health, or science. There's nothing like a good engrossing novel to carry me away to someplace exotic with characters to love (or to hate) and a plot that keeps me guessing! Reading is how I unwind, relax, or just mentally ‘get away' from it all.”
Paul Jaminet: “I try to do everything for the sheer joy of it, and mostly succeed. I believe that every part of life can and should be a source of joy, even the difficult and unpleasant parts. Just as one can love without liking (“love your enemies”), one can experience joy in doing things that are not of themselves pleasant. We are meant to work and experience stress in the daytime, to relax and experience intimacy at night — our circadian rhythms demand this, and those who retire without daytime work tend to die quickly – so work and stress, if they are kept in their proper limits, should be sources of joy. We should celebrate the benefits our work brings to others and ourselves. Then, when our work is done, we should be grateful for our time to ourselves. For me, the most joyful moment of the day is in the morning. We co-sleep with our infant son Luke, and he awakes each day about 6:40 am, lifts his head up, and looks at us with a big grin.”
10 Ways to Play – Bringing Joy and Balance Back Into Your Life
- Read Fiction. Follow Robb and Sarah’s advice and intersperse your paleo reading with science fiction for the ultimate escape. Don’t care for that genre? Then read whatever you enjoy: romance novels, mysteries, historical fiction, thrillers. Just make sure it’s not about health.
- Go Outside. Mark, Chris, Terry and Loren all mentioned their joy happens outdoors in nature. Studies have shown that being in nature helps us recover from stress. It doesn’t matter if you’re surfing or lying on the beach, rock climbing or having a picnic in a field. Get outdoors someplace beautiful, and leave your screens behind.
- Take an Internet Break. As a culture, we’ve become more anxious, less focused and more stressed, and a lot of that is a physiological response to too much screen time: computers, televisions and smartphones. The blue light messes up our circadian rhythms, and the superficial surfing from one headline to another reduces our attention span. Take a screen-free day once in a while, and feel the positive shift in your body and mind.
- Play Games. Before TV, that’s what families did. Cards, board games, imaginative play, yard sports. You don’t have to be a child to enjoy them. In fact, games are a great gateway to the inner child in us all.
- Play with Your Pets. They’re excellent role models for living in the moment, and nothing reduces stress quite as quickly as petting their soft fur, seeing their gratitude, and receiving the comfort that goes both ways.
- Spend Time with Kids. Both Paul and Robb wrote about this. Children are very different from adults, and it’s transporting to spend some time in their world. They’re imaginative, spontaneous, open to new experiences, and experts at having fun.
- Do Something You’ve Never Done Before. We’ve all heard of bucket lists – the things we want to see and do before we die. It doesn’t always have to be something as unlikely as climbing Mt. Everest. It can be as reachable as learning how to ride a horse, playing a musical instrument, growing 20 different kind of daylilies, or visiting the tourist spots in your own hometown. Plan a new activity this week.
- Travel. Sometimes, the best way to leave our worries behind is to leave the routine of home and immerse ourselves in a completely different place. This can be as big as traveling to another country, or as small as going camping for the weekend.
- Get Creative. All of us have artistic impulses, even if we aren’t professional artists, and there are so many ways to express this. You don’t have to carve marble or paint with oils. They sell adult coloring books that are incredibly relaxing. I love drawing mandalas before bed. You can even incorporate artistry into other areas of your life: cooking, gardening, carpentry, knitting, etc. Turn your inner judge off and enjoy creating something beautiful.
- Tune Into Your Senses. This is my favorite way to leave obsessive thoughts behind. If I step outside and close my eyes, I feel a soft breeze blow over my skin, smell the flowers blooming in my garden, hear the birds singing in the trees, and I can feel my heartbeat slowing and my breath deepening. But we don’t need to be in nature to do this. Thich Nhat Hanh is a Buddhist monk who has written a lot about mindfulness. Believe it or not, he loves washing dishes: “To my mind, the idea that doing dishes is unpleasant can occur only when you aren’t doing them. Once you are standing in front of the sink with your sleeves rolled up and your hands in the warm water, it is really quite pleasant. I enjoy taking my time with each dish, being fully aware of the dish, the water, and each movement of my hands. I know that if I hurry in order to eat dessert sooner, the time of washing dishes will be unpleasant and not worth living. That would be a pity, for each minute, each second of life is a miracle. The dishes themselves and that fact that I am here washing them are miracles!” Let’s face it – all of us who home cook out meals face a LOT of dishes in a day. To find a way to enjoy that task, and all tasks as Paul Jaminet wrote above? That would be magical. It’s also ancestral. Hunter-gatherer tribes had no word for work until they encountered “civilized” people. We could learn a lot from them.
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A version of this article first appeared in Paleo Magazine. I love this magazine – they are the only print publication for the paleo community, and the quality of both the writing and photography is top-notch. Psssst: a copy on the coffee table at home, or the break room at work, is a subtle way to spread the good paleo word. They're sold at many Whole Foods and Barnes & Noble stores, or you can subscribe online.
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